Fruit of the Spirit Day 4

Proverbs 19:11 “A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.”

I’m going to tuck that verse in my pocket and take it with me…😉

Galatians 5:22-23 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

Blessings for increased wisdom, Tanya Phillips

Got the stepfamily blues?  Do you find yourself in a constant tug-o-war over whose parenting styles are right? Ready to run for the hills? Read below to discover how to stepforward and lead your family out of the struggles.

Got the stepfamily blues?  Do you find yourself in a constant tug-o-war over whose parenting styles are right? Ready to run for the hills? Read below to discover how to stepforward and lead your family out of the struggles.


Psalm 127:3 says Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from Him.”  However, differences in how we raise them can be a great source of contention between ourselves and our spouse in our blended family.  How do we keep the peace and sanity in our home during the child-rearing years and teenage years?  How do we keep from reenacting the Battle of Gettysburg in our own living room with the two families that we have blended together? How do we keep from running for the hills? 

Steadfast, God-sized perseverance. The thesaurus’ words for perseverance include: persistence, dedication, steadfastness, grit, stamina, endurance.  When we are ready to run, ready to put the for-sale sign in the front yard, God’s steadfast perseverance is what can keep us here to do what God has called us to do.

Hebrews 10:36 “You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.”

So how can we obtain some God-sized perseverance? How can we be steadfast during the times of struggles?  

The answers – prayer, spending time in His word, and surrendering it all to Him.  It may seem too simple for these gritty, grueling times, but it is exactly what we need to help ourselves and our family.  Drawing strength from getting on our knees, confessing our anguish to Him, surrendering it all, asking for His guidance and strength, praying in the Spirit, opening His Word, reading scripture, and letting the power of His Words soak in and transform us.


Lord God, I confess to you that I am battling. Battling to stay and do all that you have called me to do in this family. This blended family journey can be a real, fall on your face struggle at times, and I confess to you I don’t always want to persevere to do what You want me to do here.  I want to run sometimes God.  

But God, I know that YOU are my ultimate anchor and your love and strength are steadfast and true. 

You never give up on me or my family.  

You are always there for us, and I thank you for that God.  

Thank you that you love us no matter what, and that you never leave us.  

Please forgive me for my unforgiving heart and where I falter.  Please change my heart and my thoughts Lord, so that they are in alignment with Yours.  Please help me have the willingness to do what you want me to do in this household. I pray for Your wisdom, strength and perseverance to do Your Will in my family, every second of every day.

 I invite your Spirit now to come and transform me so that I may be all that you would have me be, and all that you have called me to be in Your family that you have blessed me with. I submit my will to you Lord, in Jesus’ name, Amen. 

Thank you Lord, for the opportunity to do what you have called me to be in my family.

Tanya Phillips ~ Blended By His Grace.Com

Rewritten from Tanya’s 2015 Grace For Blended Families Devotional

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This miracle…..

This miracle……

I was reading about one of God’s miracles this morning in 2 Kings 2:22. The miracle of transforming a barren, lifeless waterbed in to living, flowing water springs that would effect a whole town, not just for that moment, but generations to come.

This miracle’s story: One of the water sources in the oldest city in the world, Jericho, was once considered “bad and not productive” for the land and vegetation growth for the people that lived there. When the people explained this to God’s prophet Elisha at that time, Elisha gave this statement: “Bring me a new bowl and put salt in it.” Then he went out the spring and threw the salt into it saying “This is what the Lords says: ‘I have healed this water. Never again will it cause death or make the land unproductive.’

Today, these perennial spring waters still produce fresh water each year, providing Jericho with a water source and small waterways that are redirected to fields for irrigation.

God took water that was once the source of sickness and not producing fruit for the land, and in one instance, changed it’s whole entire molecular make-up, to perfect health! Perfect health that would yield fruit for generations to come and a promise “never again will it cause death.”

Friends, our God is a miracle working, city changing, way maker, now, today, yesterday, and in our future! If He can do this to a city’s water source which can have a ripple effect on generations to come, just think of what He can do in US and the ripple effects that will have on our family, work place, and city, for generations to come!

Blessings in your rippling effects my friends! ~ Tanya Phillips

*Photo is of the current Elisha Spring Fountain, Jericho, West Bank

His Grace is Sufficient

Feelings of defeat can surface as blended family members navigate the roller coaster ride that can occur from some uniques challenges and complexities that arise in blended family living.

When we’re feeling low on victories, we can turn to the One who can give us the power and wisdom we need to help regain our strength, during the lows.

2 Corinthians 12:9-10 ‘“But the Lord said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

Be the Light

You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:14

Do you have a thinking problem?

Do you have a thinking problem?

It can be incredibly easy to get caught up in the blended days of focusing on all that is wrong or challenging in our lives.

But what if we stopped overly focusing on everything that was wrong, and started thinking and focusing on all that is right?

What if every time a negative thought came to mind about the people or situations in our lives, we chose to cancel it and replace it with a positive thought? This is an act of allowing yourself to be set free from negativity, worry, anger, frustration, self-pity and doubt.

🌿You deserve to be set free today and live a life of joy that God has intended for you.🌿

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, THINK ABOUT THESE THINGS.

Is this hard for you to do when life is whirling around you? Me too friends, me too! I love reading Matthew 11:28-30 to calm and steady me, and then re-reading it to let it wash away the frenzy.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30