Praying for your exes and their new spouses. Is that hard for you to do? Is that almost unspeakable and unthinkable? Anger, hurt, and pride may be blocking your way. But here is how you can do it and why you should.

First, it takes one simple decision. A decision to say “God, please bless my ex and their household with all your blessings that you would have for them.”  It might be the hardest thing you do, and it may feel very uncomfortable with each word you state through gritted teeth, but over time, it will get easier. It will also break down the chains that anger, hurt, and unforgiveness may have over you. Additionally, it will make way for all the blessings that God has and wants for you.

Also, if your exes are functioning at full capacity and all that God has to offer them and His plans for them, won’t that in turn benefit your children and your own homes?

Luke 6:27-30 But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

1 Peter 3:9 Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.

Prayer:   Heavenly father, please forgive me for holding on to any bitterness or hurt regarding my ex. Please help me to forgive them and let it go. I pray right now Lord, that you bless (state your ex’s name) with all your blessings for them. I pray that you bless them with your Holy Spirit and all that you would have for them. Thank you Lord, in Jesus’ name, Amen.  (Continue to pray for your ex and their household going forward)

Author: Tanya Phillips

How do you talk about the other household in front of your children?  Is it edifying and glorifying to God? Or does it cause embarrassment, uncomfortableness, insecurity and resentment to your children.  Our words are very powerful and lasting.  Proverbs 12:18 says “The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”  Would you say those things in front of Jesus?  If not, then we need to remove those from our conversations. Even if the other household still does it, it doesn’t give us the right to do in our household.

Blended warriors, we can be the household where the children don’t have to hear it or feel like they have to choose sides.  We can be the household that demonstrates peace and brings honor and glory to God.

Ephesians 4:29 says “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

Prayer:     

Heavenly Father, when I am tempted to say hurtful things about the other household, help me to hold my tongue.  Help me to choose peace and harmony over discord, as this is pleasing to you and imperative for the health of my household and tender hearts.  Help my words and thoughts be pleasing and edifying to you, Lord.  In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen. 

Author: Tanya Phillips