In the bible, Jesus gives us explicit instructions on what to do regarding forgiving others. Matthew 18:21-22 says “21 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” 22 Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”
In blended families, forgiving seventy-seven times can feel more like an understatement. You may feel like you have already overlooked, brushed aside, and dished out a heaping scoop of mercy with a side of grace seventy-seven times, and it is only Tuesday! Blended family homes provide plenty of opportunities to forgive, repeatedly. We are all going to make mistakes and need forgiveness and grace throughout this bumpy, beautiful blended journey. Will it be easy? Not always. Will it be worth it? Absolutely!
Forgiveness begins with a choice. Not always an easy choice. But a choice that provides freedom from those tattered, dirty rags of weathered hurt and anger. A choice to break free from chains that hold you back from soaring ahead. A choice that gives way for renewed strength and fresh hope. The sweet fruit of forgiveness is an opportunity to heal, and release strongholds in your life, as well as others.
During these times of struggling to forgive and letting go, reading God’s Words can help begin to loosen those chains and soften the most unforgiving hearts:
Matthew 6:14-15 “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
Colossians 3:13 says: “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Mark 11:25 “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”
Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you”.
Heavenly Father, Thank you for Your beautiful Words that guide and instruct me on how to forgive. I confess Lord, that choosing to forgive is not always easy for me. Please forgive me for harboring any anger towards any family members or others. Please help me to let go and forgive (list name(s) here) for (list scenario here). Please break these unforgiving chains that bind me from having the full freedom in Christ Jesus, that you have intended for me and so freely already blessed me with. Thank you Lord, I love you! In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.
Author: Tanya Phillips